Marriage on the rocks?

loster · #1 20-01-2008, 01:52 AM

Hi guys/gals here,

I have a problem which I would like to share. Firstly, my wife and I don’t live together. I only meet her during the weekends at her house. Before going to her house, I will buy lunch and all the basic necessities for her. Then whenever we watch DVD, she will react negatively to me touching her. And this is when the quarrel starts. She mentioned that I always do everything so that I can have sex with her. The truth is yes, but which guy don’t? And when I ask her if she love me, she said she love me last time but not now as I ask for sex.

Our sex frequency is once a month at best, and I have to practically beg her for it. Since married, she is addicted to gaming and I have to resort to having sex with pros in order to satisfy my urges. I do not want to do this but she is forcing me. Now I am feeling very sad every week as the same scenario happens. I don’t know what to do to salvage the marriage. I am very confused if I have made the right decision in marriage.

Can I ask if married guys change after they are married?

blue_swatch · #2 20-01-2008, 08:35 PM

one a month is bad. And why are you all living seperately to begin with? I think if this drags on, it will turn worse.

Consider carefully my friend.

tOmAski33 · #3 20-01-2008, 09:14 PM

This is indeed very sad.
Have you tried to speak to your wife with regard to your sexual needs???
If you have a wife who cannot be bonk by you or once a month it's really a f..king big issue.
Marriage is not just about 2 people being together other factors come into place including sex and finacial aspect.
Try gg for counselling to minize the problem before gg out of hand.
Also gg for FL is a temporary solution Bro.

unsung80 · #4 20-01-2008, 10:09 PM

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Originally Posted by tOmAski33

This is indeed very sad.
Have you tried to speak to your wife with regard to your sexual needs???
If you have a wife who cannot be bonk by you or once a month it's really a f..king big issue.
Marriage is not just about 2 people being together other factors come into place including sex and finacial aspect.
Try gg for counselling to minize the problem before gg out of hand.
Also gg for FL is a temporary solution Bro.

Ya i agree with the quoted bro. Sit down and talk to her. My gf just now was telling me having sex once a month will do. I got a big shock over it, later i realised she was kidding with me. I personally feel intimacy do pull the relationship closer. Hope things will turn out good between both of your.

geckoSG · #5 22-01-2008, 07:39 AM

To some ladies, they dun look at sex to pull the relationship closer.
To them, they felt that you treat them like a sex object.

Women...

sammyboyfor · #6 22-01-2008, 08:16 AM

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Originally Posted by loster

Our sex frequency is once a month at best, and I have to practically beg her for it.

Dump her and get a new wife.

people power · #7 22-01-2008, 08:18 AM

Bro, I guess your marriage is over .... since living separately already, I am surprise she still let you have it once a month. Are you 2 living separately to fulfil the 3 years for divorce ..

asean · #8 22-01-2008, 08:29 AM

No point waiting for something to happen, either you 2 go marriage counselor or call it quits now ... whats the point of dragging ... we really donno what happened between 2 of you to prompt her living apart

cereal-killer · #9 22-01-2008, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by loster

Hi guys/gals here,

I have a problem which I would like to share. Firstly, my wife and I don’t live together. I only meet her during the weekends at her house. Before going to her house, I will buy lunch and all the basic necessities for her. Then whenever we watch DVD, she will react negatively to me touching her. And this is when the quarrel starts. She mentioned that I always do everything so that I can have sex with her. The truth is yes, but which guy don’t? And when I ask her if she love me, she said she love me last time but not now as I ask for sex.

In the first place, where do both of you live apart ? And only see her during WEEKENDS ? You sound like both of you are still in a bf/gf-relationship.

XueJing · #10 22-01-2008, 10:33 AM

Haha, maybe trying out GF/BF relationship starting afresh and see whether end up married bo.

Anyway jokes aside.

Bro TS, I think your marriage is goner lah, if you really keen to keep it, go marriage counselor asap, mai tu liao. Else, just divorce lah, life is precious, dont waste your time .....

AAconnection · #11 22-01-2008, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by loster

she will react negatively to me touching her. And this is when the quarrel starts. She mentioned that I always do everything so that I can have sex with her. The truth is yes, but which guy don’t? And when I ask her if she love me, she said she love me last time but not now as I ask for sex.

To have sex with WL you need money, to have sex with GF,wife you need skill and knowledge. Maybe everytime you want to have sex with her ,she on PMS leh. And some girl very shy to tell you and may give you the negative signal. Do you know her PMS? Most experience hubby will more or less know about female mood and swing.

wanmalay · #12 22-01-2008, 10:51 AM

Bro, this is very unhealthy for both of you. To be frank, i feel that sooner or later your marriage will end if this continue. Have a good talk with her and see what really is the problem. The problem might lies with you and might not be her.

#13 22-01-2008, 10:59 AM

Bros are correct, this is unhealthy, soon, it will be like once every 2 months ....
then have to spend more on WLs liao

singexpat · #14 22-01-2008, 12:37 PM

Bro, mayb u can try gg for tour wif her..

go somewhere nice n "lo man tic"... let her relive those courtship days..

hang37 · #15 22-01-2008, 01:16 PM

bro.. the main issue is not how often your sex life.. is why you both live separately? whats the main reason for doing that? once you solve this problem then we can help you on the sex life issue...