Rape

[Forestor]

Got to know a deep secret from my gf that she was rape in the past. She naively being deceived that she shld not report else he will go to jail and his family will be broken up. Being a nice natured personality she really let him off. Though is painful to hear that but some how kinda kinky to know more in details. Pain me to probe further and also dying to know who the bastard is.

Is so contradicting.

Anyone has similar issue or story to share ?

[squiggle]

No offend TS, is sad to hear that your gf got such a dark past. If you can find such a kind hearted gf normally people would straight away want to marriage her or ditch her off (since she is naive, sometimes people being too kind can be consider as a weakness.). I not trying to criticize or looking down at your gf here. But anyway, people who got raped before might have phobia of having sex even with their future bf/husband, you might have to be prepare for this.

What you can do now is to ask your gf whether she can recognize the suspect and file a report. If not, make sure you take good care of your gf.

[Forestor]

It happened 5yrs ago. I really dun wish to force her to remember them. The fact of me being a bastard really wanted to know every details of it just to satisfy my curiosity and sextisfaction. I will definitely marry her and the best part is that it did not cause any phobia at all just that she refuse to let me go down on her. She feels that is dirty down there.

[squiggle]

Originally Posted by Forestor

It happened 5yrs ago. I really dun wish to force her to remember them. The fact of me being a bastard really wanted to know every details of it just to satisfy my curiosity and sextisfaction. I will definitely marry her and the best part is that it did not cause any phobia at all just that she refuse to let me go down on her. She feels that is dirty down there.

Great to hear that, if she die die refuse to recall the incident again, then just forget it. Most probably a true relationship can heal her. Meanwhile just treat her well and hope both of you have a happy life. Yes, sex will only comes after marriage for your case.

[conquer]

Originally Posted by Forestor

really wanted to know every details of it just to satisfy my curiosity and sextisfaction.

What the hell are you talking about, bro.

[squiggle]

Originally Posted by conquer

What the hell are you talking about, bro.

What he is trying to say is maybe he ask to see what he can do to help her gf out and also what happened to his gf that's all. Not trying to say that he is enjoy that his gf being raped or anything.

[newyorker88]

Originally Posted by Forestor

It happened 5yrs ago. I really dun wish to force her to remember them. The fact of me being a bastard really wanted to know every details of it just to satisfy my curiosity and sextisfaction. I will definitely marry her and the best part is that it did not cause any phobia at all just that she refuse to let me go down on her. She feels that is dirty down there.

TS, it would be good to file a report, help her end her past. If you treasure your relationship down the road n for your futue with her. Tramas can relapse n pretty soon, you will have problems if you don't do so.

I believe she confide her issues of this dark past with you becos she trust you. I think she wants to come to terms with it, n probably need your support on this matter.

[Forestor]

Originally Posted by newyorker88

TS, it would be good to file a report, help her end her past. If you treasure your relationship down the road n for your futue with her. Tramas can relapse n pretty soon, you will have problems if you don't do so.

I believe she confide her issues of this dark past with you becos she trust you. I think she wants to come to terms with it, n probably need your support on this matter.

She did file a report and the inspector even tell her is useless as she has so call "wash" away all the evidence and it will take years and guess what even the inspector tries to be funny because he will send her back home and send her to the station for some "follow-ups" and even sms her to ask her how is she etc.... kinda doesn't sounds right. I trust her if u guys feel that maybe my gf also trying to be funny with the inspector.

That guy even look for her and tell her that he is sorry and hit her hard cos of her good natured and kind hearted character. Well I can say that she is overly kind hearted and I find it hard to accept that she agree to let him go.

Anyway case close and we are moving forward. Her way to help her overcome this is she says that she tell herself that she is having sex with another guy not rape.

[pratakosong126]

TS all the best to you and yr wife

[newyorker88]

Originally Posted by Forestor

That guy even look for her and tell her that he is sorry and hit her hard cos of her good natured and kind hearted character. Well I can say that she is overly kind hearted and I find it hard to accept that she agree to let him go.

.

What goes around comes around. If this guy does really did it, against the girls agreement, he will get it someday.


Good to hear that your gf is open to telling you that, shows she trust you.

[hhlover]

i think most girls do encounter this kind of happening.. i do have a gf last time.. she told me her 1st time was oso sort of kana force n rape by her ex.. stay over her ex house.. middle of the nite.. her ex force himself on her even she does not wan to have sex.. i think nowadays is very common...

[gStringGuy]

Still traumatising now? Got seek doctor or professional counselling?? Dun force her to forget cos she will nvr forget.

[squiggle]

Well said to all the bros of the above. If the police refuse to take any action and you all insist to pursue the matter. One way is to lodge a formal complain, the other is to post your story onto the net and let the public to pressurize the police. This way they will either take action or just make a public announcement regarding the matter.

If your gf die die cannot move on with the past, best is to bring her to see psychologist. What she is doing now is just temp suppressing her trauma which won't do good for her in long term and will not end the root of the problem.

If the rapist truly turn a new leaf, then you all can forgive him. Yes, he will get karma someday/his next life for this.

Loving a person is about loving his/her everything. Past, personality, flaws and everything. It won't be any matter for me if I can find someone who love me like my parents, no matter what happen to me or the wrong that I have done and continue to believe me that I will change.

We can say all the bad things about our gf/ex, but 90% of us here have great sex history/with the FL, so fair/no right or wrong for the both sides

TS, you have to be real careful with your this gf now by not to force her anything and making her to project that all guys are sick.
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As for myself, I myself still a single up till now. I only kena clothes on sexual harassment during my NS by my bunk mates. They will everyday strip my pants before sleep to check if my cock got stand, purposely lay beside of me and hugging me. Bend my back down and doggy me at the back. Took belt to whip my back till red. When changing swimming trunk in the room, they will take my underwear off and letting me cover my cock with my hands. There was once one of them during class touched/rubbed my cock, my friend told them off and said to me why I never tell them off? I told him that I'm outnumbered against them, what can I do? I never report them to my officers as I scare this may get them to DB and ruin their future and families and if they were to get punish they might come back after me. Also all these may just being last for 6 months of BMT, just endure a bit and most likely never will get to see them again. I just kept a positive mindset, never become gay/being traumatize and thinking that all guys just want to have fun for their 2 years of NS. Don't treat everything too seriously and keep an open mind.

[KhunnTey]

so what's this topic on rape for??

[Obeliskseamus]

Just move on