Sexually frustrated
 

Hi all~ Been a silent reader for quite awhile and been contemplating whether I should seek advices from fellow samsters.

A little background:
I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years. Sex was amazing initially but have started to dwindle about a year ago. I'm 23, he's 25. I'm 101% sure he isn't cheating on me. Just that since he started his own business, he became quite busy and had put on a lot of weight. He used to workout everyday but none at all now.

Before, we had sex everyday or almost everyday. He could last for at least half an hour. Now when we have sex, he comes quite fast although he tries to delay it the best he can and always makes sure I come first. We can't have rough sex like before which is what I like. Sex is limited to once or twice week at best, or occasionally once a fortnight.

Would really appreciate any advices at all as I feel like I'm going crazy at times as my sex drive is quite high.

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

In today's generation dear nothing is 100%

Guess you only left with yr 1% of hope

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

Talk to him about it? Like how you like it when he's working out or pray hard his business will settle down soon and have more time for you? Look at it another way, maybe he's working real hard to give you both a better brighter future?

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

Ho Sei Liao , someone going to kana PM until inbox explode . Girl, just let them send pictures of themselves first before talking to them .

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

I don't know why but you sound kinda condescending.. I do know that nothing is 100%. He might not be cheating on me now but who knows what would happen 5-10 years down the road? But all I can say is I'm very sure right now.

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

And no, I'm not looking for FB or part time lover or anything like that at all. Please don't PM me regarding those.

More info: We did have a good talk about it. He went back to working out after that but stopped after a few months as things were getting busy again. Sex did improve during those few months. Is exercising and eating healthy the only way? :(

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

Hui Ge say man can only use 5000 times, maybe u squeeze your bf dry or hit limit coz both of u used to fuck everyday :eek: :D :D

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

Maybe Hes stressed out with his Business. Why dont you two plan out for a Holiday break together. Maybe it will "Freshen" up your relationship.

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

he's probably stressed/worried about his business and he cant focus on the sex.

Talk to him, give him a massage, do couple exercises, whatever fits your bill in helping him take his mind off things.

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

The sex part is an important need a man needs to have, thats why he still do it despite the busy lifestyle. But the excitement will inevitably tone down overtime with the same partner. Think of it as "i just want to erect instead of enjoying the foreplay". Adding some fun (not sure if you already does these) during the foreplay and sex does help. Try buying sex toys, etc for a start and see if things improve.

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Well, being in a better state of health does improve performance, so yes.

Personally, I feel that busy or not, there's bound to be ways and time to still exercise and keep fit. It does, however, take a lot of discipline.

Try to get him to relax; stress can also lead to increased weight gain.

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

If your sex drive is high, why don't you take the lead in the whole session?
Do everything from foreplay to cowgirl and just simply rape him.

See if he enjoys himself..

Sometimes, he could be too engrossed in building up his business..

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

Agree with tomb, it has been proven that sex relieves stress, so initiating and taking the lead can passively help him. You can also consider adding toys or other stuff to improve the sex and break the usual routine.

Re: Sexually frustrated
 

When a woman is stressed at her relationship, she cannot focus on her work.
When a man is stressed at work, he cannot focus on his relationship.
That said, maybe you try to find some ways to help reduce his stress in his business?

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TS, having to own a business is not so simple as working for others. The amount of stress level is difficult to imagine. I wonder what type of business can put on weight? I can only think of food. Maybe you can advice him to sell his business away and get a full time job. Then he will have more time for you. good luck.